If I slip and fall outside of your home on your cracked sidewalk, it’s not YOUR fault. It’s mine.
A.) I should have seen the crack.
B.) I risked falling when I made the decision to walk that day.
Not everything in the world can be the fault of others.
Unfortunately, the couple experienced the heart-wrenching and tragic stillbirth of their first and only child, Noah, during their home birth. The attending midwife, Cara Muhlhahn, and her team are being sued for not referring the expectant mother to a doctor/hospital during the the woman’s 3-day labor. The extended labor apparently is what ultimately contributed to the tragic loss of the newborn.
I may not be popular with this answer, but I’ll say it:
HOME BIRTHS are tricky. You are essentially removing any and all access to emergency services and monitoring technology in the hopes that everything just goes alright.
Yes I know, “women have been having medically-unattended births for centuries… blah, blah, blah.” Ok, fine. If that’s how you feel, I refuse to allow you to enjoy any of today’s technologies that convenience your life since you refuse to allow your unborn child to have access to any technologies that would convenience her/his life.
No fridge for you.
Nope, not if you choose to disallow your unborn child access to a fetal heart monitor or an ultrasound.
If you chose to have a home birth: FINE. I personally think it’s ridiculously ignorant given today’s technology. Truly. (This coming from someone who gave birth in a hospital in second-world Mexico…) However, if you choose this path you must understand that tragedies can happen. (You don’t need to tell me that tragedies also happen in hospitals; I know that. However, I’m willing to say far fewer happen there.)
And, if you’re in intense and active labor for 3 days – get your ass to the hospital. No human (or infant) can handle that much stress.
The injustice of losing a child is unfathomable to me. There truly are no words. I feel for this couple.
And, I suppose that in order for closure to occur, maybe blame is necessary for this couple. However, I’m not in agreement. Suing the midwife that you chose to monitor your home birth? You chose this route. You chose her. You knew what could happen.
Ok – let the flaming begin.