Let’s dig in, shall we?
So there’s this person I know.
She decided that in-vitro was an option she wanted to pursue — not because infertility forced her in that direction, but because she did not have a compatible/able-to-produce significant other. And, well, because she wanted to have a baby. She’s mid-30’s, I believe.
So her reputable doctor extracted egg cells, fertilized them with a sperm donor of her choice, then implanted the three besties.
All three took. All three stuck.
She is now the host of 3 follicles-turned-embryos and is 2.5 months pregnant. This is her first pregnancy.
Her personal life is such that for all intents and purposes, she’s single. However, I don’t want that to weigh into your thoughts on this. However, the situation is such that she does not have immediate access to the best prenatal and post-natal, early-baby healthcare nor does she have a checkbook that is ready and able to write a check for whatever amount is necessary to take care of her medical bills.
So, here we are.
We all know the realities of multiple births. From forced early bed rest, the incredible strain on one’s body, premature babies oftentimes with developmental differences, medical expenses, lack of time, energy and resources, the cost of raising children, etc. — it’s hard. I don’t mean to paint a bleak picture, but even in the best case scenarios it can be quite difficult.
Here’s where I want to hear what you would do. I’m asking you to take a step back from all of your preconceived notions about abortion, about faith, about our freedoms and tell me what you would do.
There are so many facets to this conversation.
Point: The way a woman craves a child is so palpable, so intense, that I can’t begrudge anyone that desire nor would I ever purposefully discourage anyone from attaining that goal.
Counterpoint: Bringing three lives into this world at the same time almost guarantees that the one-on-one bond that most parents get with their singleton babies wouldn’t even remotely be an option with three.
Point: A doctor medically implanted those embryos, they were not fearfully and wonderfully made and knit together in her womb. Instead, they were implanted by man. Therefore to have man remove one or two is reasonable and within the realm of acceptance.
Counterpoint: The babies are gifts from God and therefore must be kept. Come hell or high water.
So, let’s talk about this.
What would you do?
What would you think?
Again, I ask that you consider every aspect of this scenario: the effect on the mother, the effect on the potential children, the financial aspect, the medical/developmental aspect. ALL OF IT.
I would love to hear your opinion. And remember – you can always post anonymously. I want to hear how you’d embrace the scientific proposition that the babies were man-made and not God-made. I want to hear your argument either for or against her desire to have a baby in this way.
What is the responsible decision?
I’m crafting my answer now…
I believe in God.
I call myself a Christ-follower.
I believe in doing unto others as I would have them do to me.
I pray. All the time. It’s like God is my Jiminey Cricket.
I love words; therefore I love the Bible. Specifically Psalms and Proverbs and James. I consider the book to be written by folks who were inspired by God. And you know how that goes – man is fallible.
I feel that even if all this God-following is for naught, I will have lived a fulfilled, calm, faithful, non-lonely life based on a doctrine that encourages me not to gossip, but allows me to be who am I. Imperfect and all. So imperfect that I even swear. Or lie every now and then.
The “point/counterpoints” are merely that: two extreme perspectives that one could potentially have.
Remember friends… I haven’t identified or communicated which one I identify with just yet.
I’ll let you know what she decided in a few days.