What’s the best thing to do the week before you’re due to return back to work?
Start potty training!
Here was my goal: to potty train Lila.
Why: because I thought she was ready, I was tired of buying diapers and because I’d rather train her earlier than later. I’ve heard far too many horror stories about stubborn 4 year olds still in pull-ups.
So there. That’s where I was starting from on Friday when we began this process.
Next, let me tell you my parenting style: I have learned that I can NEVER push anything on Lila. Ever. My firstborn is an independent, spirited child. She’s by no means ill-behaved, instead she’s methodical, quirky, imaginative, surprisingly intense and staunchly and fiercely unconstrained – a maverick, if you will. [hee hee].
I should have known that she would thumb her nose at the idea of potty training in “three days.”
Yep, after some chatting with friends and with several people who have done this program successfully, I bought the PDF for $24.00. It’s all about how to potty-train in 3 days. (See here.)
While this method does work for some children, I think this is yet another one of those parenting lessons. You know what I’m talking about: all children are different and what works for one, might not work the same way for another.
The premise behind the training is this:
- The child must be 22 months. (Lila was 6 days short of 22 months when we started this. Sue me.)
- You throw away all diapers with the help of your child. (We put ours in a garbage bag… um, Vivienne will be using them.)
- You put your child in underpants. You explain to them that the underpants are DRY and that they need to keep them dry.
- You introduce her to the potty chair and tell her that’s where she needs to potty. The potty chair is to remain in the bathroom and is NOT to be moved.
- THEN, you stay on your child for THREE DAYS STRAIGHT like white on rice. I mean, ON your child. You’re attempting to learn their bathroom “cues” and to never miss one of their accidents. You’re supposed to do “fun things” like bake and color. (Right. Try baking with an almost two-year-old. I’m assuming the 3.5 yr-old’s are baking…)
- You’re not supposed to go ANYWHERE. No leaving the house. At all. Again, ALL of your attention is on your child all.day.long.
- ALL the while you’re supposed to say, “Tell Mommy when you have to go potty, ok!” a ba-jillion times — like a hundred times a day. (You get tired of hearing yourself say it. So you know your kid is tired of hearing it)
- When they have an accident, you scoop them up, run them to the bathroom and try to get them to go at least a LITTLE on the potty.
- If they go – you make a HUGE DEAL. (Yay! You’re such a big girl! How awesome! Wah-who!)
- If they don’t go – you remind them them to tell you if they have to go potty.
- You’re supposed to remain positive and upbeat throughout the three days. And, never say, “No! No! No!” or anything even remotely demoralizing.
- Note: There are no pull-ups involved in this process — you’re going straight to underwear.