|There are so many great things about this baby sleeping on a shelf. Awesome.|
Oh peeps, we’ve got some SLEEP ISSUES [insert foot stomping] in the casa these days.
I can speak for my husband when I say, “Omg. WeAreSoTired. WeAreSoTired.”
I need help. I need suggestions. I need a sound-proof room. I need at least 6-8 hours of UNINTERRUPTED sleep.
- Lila is almost 2.5 years old. She’s been sleeping in a “big girl bed” (toddler bed/crib/thing) since she was about 18 months old with little to no issues. She’d lay down, go to sleep, wake up, the end. She’s been potty-trained for about 7 months now. She has no bed wetting issues, afraid of the dark, afraid of her room issues, blah, blah, blah. She’s in a separate room from her sister. They do, however, share a common wall.
- Vivienne is almost 10 months old and admittedly I’ve done “sleep training” a bit differently with her. We abide by the “drowsy-but-awake” rule and for the most part, Vivienne is a great sleeper. I have, however, rushed in when she’s crying more frequently than I did with Lila solely because I don’t/didn’t want Vivi’s crying to wake Lila.
Where we are today:
- Vivi goes to bed around 7:15 pm after her last feeding of the night. She then sleeps, usually, if LILA CAN KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT, until about 6-7 am. Beautiful. I’m convinced she’d sleep longer… if she didn’t have an older [louder] sister. (NO, I do not wonder where Lila’s constant outside-voice comes from. I know me.)
- Lila goes to bed after Vivienne – around 7:30-7:45 p.m. and…
…she GETS UP OUT OF HER BED NO LESS THAN 8 TIMES A NIGHT.
NOW, she used to get up about 3-5 times a night BEFORE she fell asleep. Now she’s getting up a boat-load of times AFTER she falls asleep.
It is driving us INSANE.
She opens her door and then walks down the hall to wherever we are and stands there.
She never really has a “need.”
Does she need to use the potty? No. Is she crying or sad? No. Does she need a drink? No. It’s like, “Hey. I’m here. Hovering. In your business. When I should be in bed.”
How do we normally handle this?
We scoop her up, put her back in bed and tell her not to get out of bed again.
1.) We are not co-sleepers so we don’t welcome her with open arms into our bed. We’ve done this before. We all hate it. No one sleeps.
2.) We’ve attempted bribery. “If you stay in bed, you can have a ________ in the morning.”
3.) We’ve used FORCEFUL, LOUD LANGUAGE. “DO NOT GET OUT OF THIS BED AGAIN, LILA. DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME.”
4.) We’ve attempted to have Fergie sleep with her. (You know, in case she was lonely.) It didn’t go over well. “Bergie, out. Out of Lila’s bad. OUT.”
The child is not AFRAID of her bed or her room, she simply doesn’t want to be in it.
Monday night this get-back-in-the-bed dance lasted from about 11 pm to 5 am. It was hell.
We’d scoop Lila up and put her back in bed, she would SCREAM AND WAIL about the injustice of it all and … then wake up Vivienne who would proceed to SCREAM in solidarity with her sister.
This happened about 3 times just that night alone.
Wednesday night [out of desperation] we locked her door [go ahead and gasp — we have a VIDEO monitor. We can see and hear it all.] and told her that when the door is locked, she cannot COME OUT OF HER ROOM and she needs to get back into bed.
She yelled, “Mommy, Daddy… open de door! Open de door!” for 45 minutes and finally got back into bed and went to sleep. (Score!) (Keep in mind that meanwhile, Vivi is screaming because she’s aware that there is a very loud disturbance just feet from her.)
So we tried that AGAIN last night, and what do you know — SHE UNLOCKED the door and floated right into our room again.
So clearly locking the door isn’t the solution.
SO, WHAT DO WE DO NEXT?
Keep in mind that we aren’t spankers. We just don’t go there.
**I am trying an idea from a co-worker. He says to scoop Lila up each and every time she gets out of bed and to not say a WORD to her. Just scoop, back to bed. Scoop, back to bed. She’s getting attention each time we pick her up and with this potential solution, she won’t be getting attention and in theory she’ll get bored with this whole getting up, back to bed routine.
I’ll let you know how it goes.
Until then, more suggestions, please.